It was difficult to come up with a title for this one…
5 Things that Happen When You Start Dating After Your Ex Fiance of 4 Years Fucks You Over
5 Things that Happen When You Date Someone New After Being With a Serial Cheater for 4 Years
5 Things that Happen When You Date Someone After Having Someone Take Your Soul and Rip it to Shreds
But I decided to go with the least aggressive option I could think of. Here are 5 things that happen when you start dating someone new after having your heart broken.
- It Feels FakeThings are going pretty great with this new person. They’re sweet, they’re kind, they’re super attractive, cheesy romantic, and you’re into a lot of the same things. Everything is awesome, the dates are going wonderfully, you feel like “hey, this could go somewhere”. The thing is, it all seems like a dream. It’s way too good to be true. You keep pinching yourself hoping you’ll wake up, snap out of it, get back to your normal single life. Well, actually you don’t want to wake up because this feeling is something amazing that you haven’t felt for a long time. It just doesn’t seem like real life. It feels fake.
- You Question Everything
Everything they tell you, everything they like about you, everything they do… you question it. It’s not because they’ve given you any reason to be suspicious. They haven’t. They’ve done nothing that would lead you to believe they’re being dishonest. It’s just that you’ve been lied to so many times and it’s hard NOT to question people.
- Insecurities Devour You
You developed a whole long list of insecurities during your last relationship, and the securities you already had were only made worse. They continue to eat at you, picking at what little self confidence you’ve built back up. I don’t think it will always be like this. Eventually it’ll die down to the regular level of insecurity that everyone faces.
- It’s Hard to Trust Them
More important than anything else in a relationship, is trust in the other person. It’s so hard to trust someone again after trusting someone with your life, only to have it end as horribly as it did. Confiding in someone and telling them all of your secrets only to have them betray you doesn’t make it easy.
- You Don’t Want to Fall in Love
Okay. You do, but you don’t. You do want all of the happiness and passion that comes with being in love. However, you don’t want it to end like it did last time. Of course not everyone is going to fuck you over like your ex did, but you’re terrified that they will. You’re terrified of being hurt like that again so you’re scared of loving someone so deeply ever again.
None of these points are things that can’t be overcome with time. Someone who really cares for you will want to show you over time that they aren’t like that. They will make every effort to make you happy and see you smile.
They say that time heals all wounds.